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5 NOV 2026 · Eight years after her first appearance on So Shameless, Tahoe’s daughter Denae returns to the podcast — but this time she’s grown, college-educated, building her own brand, and ready to put her father in the HOT SEAT! 😂
What is it REALLY like being Tahoe’s daughter? From growing up with a father who’s known throughout the neighborhood to becoming a content creator herself, Denae opens up about finding her own identity, building her brand, and whether there’s any competition between her and her dad.
Things get personal when Denae discusses how she felt when Tahoe believed he had another daughter, only to discover the child wasn’t his. She also addresses Tahoe’s relationship with her boyfriend and whether her father crossed the line when he got involved in an issue between them.
Then the tables turn, and Denae starts asking the questions!
Is Tahoe fatphobic? If he could do life over, would he still choose to have children? What characteristics did Denae inherit from him that he can’t stand? Where does he see himself in ten years? And why is he so against his daughter moving to Maryland to be closer to her boyfriend?
Tahoe doesn’t let her off easy either!
He wants to know how Denae REALLY feels about his involvement in the adult entertainment and sex-positive community. Is she embarrassed by her father’s explicit social media content? How does she handle people knowing what her dad does? And why did she ignore his rule about introducing potential boyfriends to him BEFORE dating them?
But the biggest surprise comes when Denae reminds Tahoe of a promise he made years ago: If she graduated from college, he would go back and finish his own degree.
Well… Denae graduated. So what’s Tahoe’s excuse now? 👀
This episode is an honest, funny, sometimes uncomfortable conversation about fatherhood, parenting adult children, relationships, boundaries, accountability, and what happens when your kids grow up and start questioning YOU.
🎟️ SO SHAMELESS LIVE — NOVEMBER 27TH!
BROOKLYN, WE’RE COMING HOME!
Join Tahoe, Traum, Yesssterday, DajahBelle and special guests at City Winery Brooklyn on Friday, November 27th as we celebrate eight years of So Shameless and give DajahBelle the farewell she deserves!
We’re bringing the laughs, the arguments, the surprises, and of course, HOMIE COURT to the stage!
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29 OCT 2026 · Part Two of So Shameless is here, and we’re getting into some conversations that might have y’all looking at us sideways!
We kick things off with a newly single mother of EIGHT children who wants to know how she’s supposed to get back into the dating world. Fellas, are you seriously considering a relationship with a woman who has eight kids, or is that an automatic dealbreaker?
Next, Jay-Z is officially headlining the 2027 Super Bowl Halftime Show! But does Hov have enough hits and stage presence to carry the show by himself? Is his relationship with the NFL still a betrayal of Colin Kaepernick and everything he stood for? And if we’re talking legendary halftime performances, who would put on the better show: Kanye West or Jay-Z?
Then we get into Yung Miami’s emotional new song “Dear JT,” where she reflects on her friendship and falling out with her former City Girls partner. Is this a genuine attempt to reconnect with someone she loves, or is she using their personal relationship to promote her new album? Would you feel differently if you were JT?
We also discuss what a man’s opinions about Beyoncé and Megan Thee Stallion supposedly reveal about how he views women. Can someone’s feelings about two celebrities really tell you what kind of man he is, or are we reaching?
And finally, we revisit the Diddy case with a difficult conversation: Why is Sean Combs REALLY behind bars? Are people separating what he was actually convicted of from the other allegations and public perceptions surrounding him? And should we be comfortable with someone serving time based on conduct that wasn’t proven in court?
It’s another episode full of uncomfortable questions, opposing perspectives, and the kind of conversations you’ve come to expect from So Shameless.
Socials:
JD - @JDTheOpinionated
Vonnie - @Vonnie_B
Tap in, leave a comment, and tell us where you stand!
#SoShamelessPodcast #JayZ #YungMiami
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27 OCT 2026 · This week on So Shameless, we welcome special guest News With B to the couch for an eye-opening conversation about New York City politics, Black political power, government surveillance, and the decisions being made that could change our communities forever.
We kick things off by discussing News With B’s remarkable autobiographical memory and how she and Tahoe originally met before diving into some of the biggest political and social issues affecting New Yorkers.
Who’s making the decisions about our neighborhoods, and why aren’t more of us involved?
We examine NYC’s proposed urban planning changes, the concept of a 20-minute city, controversial bus lanes and pedestrian islands, and how changes to city streets are affecting drivers, residents, and small businesses.
We also discuss what’s really on the back of your ballot, why News With B believes voters should reject certain proposals, and the importance of understanding what you’re voting for before stepping into the booth.
Then we get into Flock surveillance cameras, how law enforcement uses license plate recognition technology, and the privacy concerns that come with increased surveillance.
Why aren’t more Black residents attending school board meetings, City Council hearings, and other public forums where decisions about our communities are being made? And what happens when we don’t show up?
The conversation takes another turn as we discuss FD Signifier’s YouTube video Fallen Idols: How Black Leaders Fail Us, exploring why some prominent Black voices change their messaging after achieving success and whether our community holds its leaders accountable.
We also debate the influence of white women in American elections, why some voters support policies that appear to conflict with their interests, and whether code-switching and appearing more humble around white people can help Black people get ahead professionally.
Tahoe definitely has something to say about that last one! 👀
And finally, we lighten things up with a wild hypothetical: Ladies, what would you do if you were the last woman on Earth?
It’s politics, race, community accountability, uncomfortable truths, and classic So Shameless debates.
Tap in, join the conversation, and let us know where you stand!
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@NewsWithB on Instagram
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22 OCT 2026 · In Part Two of So Shameless, we're diving into some uncomfortable conversations about race, relationships, class, and the expectations placed on Black men and women.
We kick things off discussing reports of the Trump administration's efforts to address discrimination against white men. What does that mean for conversations about racial inequality, privilege, and discrimination in America?
Then we ask a question that's guaranteed to spark debate: Can you truly consider yourself pro-Black if you date or marry outside your race? Does supporting Black people require choosing Black love, or can the two exist independently?
The conversation gets even more controversial when we ask whether you'd rather live in a neighborhood surrounded by people of another race or in a lower-income, predominantly Black neighborhood. How much do race, class, community, and economic status influence where we choose to live?
We also explore why patriarchy affects Black men differently and whether Black men experience the same privileges traditionally associated with male dominance in society.
Finally, we get into marriage and boundaries after a husband reveals that one of his wife's seemingly harmless habits became a much bigger issue after they got married: she's too friendly with other men! Is being friendly disrespectful to your spouse, or is insecurity being disguised as a relationship boundary?
Race, loyalty, privilege, marriage, and uncomfortable truths. Nothing is off-limits on So Shameless.
Featuring: Tahoe, Marcus & Chrys
Marcus- @IMoveDifferent on Instagram
Chrys - @ChrysChilds on Instagram
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20 OCT 2026 · This week on So Shameless, Tahoe welcomes Marcus, author of How to Be a Professional Side Dude, and New Music Wednesdays Chrys Childs for an unfiltered conversation about dating, relationships, commitment, sexual expectations, and the complicated dynamics between successful men and women.
Tahoe kicks things off by asking Marcus a question everybody wants answered: Can a man who built his reputation as a professional side dude actually settle down and be faithful? Marcus opens up about his dating history, whether he believes his past behavior with women has brought him bad karma, and why he once made a woman wait THREE YEARS before introducing her to his children. Was he protecting his kids or wasting her time?
The conversation heats up when Marcus reveals that he starts discussing sex as early as the second date. Is that too soon? Tahoe and Chrys debate when men should introduce sexual expectations while dating and whether bringing up sex early changes how women view a man’s intentions.
The crew also react to Gilbert Arenas’ controversial response when his wife asks how he would protect her if three women tried to jump her. Plus, is it disrespectful for your roommate’s boyfriend to spend every weekend at your apartment?
Then things get personal as the cast asks whether we secretly judge our friends for their sexual choices, whether having separate hobbies is the key to a healthy relationship, and why some people struggle to maintain their individuality once they’re in love.
Finally, we tackle one of the biggest debates in modern dating: Why do women with less financial success sometimes end up with wealthy, successful men, while highly educated, financially independent women struggle to find lasting relationships? Is it about money, expectations, compatibility, or something deeper?
It’s another episode full of uncomfortable questions, different perspectives, and the conversations you’ve come to expect from So Shameless.
Topics: Modern dating, relationship advice, commitment issues, dating successful women, financial independence, sexual compatibility, relationship boundaries, parenting and dating, and gender roles.
Featuring: Tahoe, Marcus & Chrys
Marcus- @IMoveDifferent on Instagram
Chrys - @ChrysChilds on Instagram
Subscribe, share your thoughts in the comments, and let us know: Would you seriously date someone who openly called themselves a professional side dude?
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16 OCT 2026 · In Part Two of this week's So Shameless, the conversations get even deeper as Tahoe, Kelly G, Lama, and the crew tackle friendship, vulnerability, gender double standards, race, and accountability.
We kick things off by asking whether men give their female friends relationship advice from a male perspective instead of understanding how women think. Lama takes things a step further when he admits that sometimes he's willing to play the long game as a friend, hoping a woman will eventually see him as something more. Is that genuine friendship or just waiting for an opportunity?
Kelly G opens up about experiencing pain in her personal life while refusing to let anyone perceive her as weak, leading Tahoe to ask an important question: What's the difference between being vulnerable and being weak?
The discussion shifts to interracial relationships as Kelly explains why she sometimes feels judged for liking white people. We also explore her Jewish ancestry, ethnic cleansing, and the historical and cultural differences between Eastern and Western Europeans.
Then things heat up as we debate whether women receive more grace than men, why respect sometimes seems conditional, and whether society spends too much time teaching women how to avoid sexual assault instead of teaching men not to commit it.
We also discuss the allegations surrounding Kai Cenat involving alleged abusive behavior toward younger people, and close with a debate about mothers choosing to give their children their own last names instead of the father's.
Are men and women really held to the same standards, or do we only believe in equality when it benefits us?
Tap in, join the conversation, and let us know where you stand!
Socials:
Kelly
@TheKellyGShow on Instagram
Lama
@LamaBean on Instagram
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14 OCT 2026 · This week on So Shameless, we’re joined by Kelly G, “The Drill Fairy,” and Lama, owner of Slyte Studios, for an episode packed with controversial opinions, hilarious dating stories, and some uncomfortable conversations about Black culture.
We kick things off with Lama asking a question that might make you rethink your entire circle: What’s the difference between a real friend and somebody you’re just cool with?
Then things heat up as we discuss Davinci’s controversial interview with Cam Newton, where he calls Americans lazy and incompetent compared to people from other countries and argues that Black Americans need to stop focusing on slavery. Tahoe and the crew dive into the growing diaspora wars between Black Americans, Africans, and Caribbean people, and whether these conversations are doing more harm than good.
But the real fireworks begin when we turn to modern dating!
Are women expecting men to prove their worth without offering anything in return? Kelly G admits that some women test men to see how much money and effort they can get out of them, while Traum points out that men do their fair share of dry begging too.
Are women taking advantage of men in today’s dating culture? Should men always pay for dates? And why are Black Americans, Africans, and Caribbean people still fighting amongst themselves?
Lama shares some WILD dating experiences, including breaking up with a woman over an expensive meal, refusing to pay for an uninvited friend, and ending things with someone who ordered too much food and took the leftovers home!
Meanwhile, Kelly reveals she’d rather have a man pay one of her bills than take her on a date, sparking a conversation about financial expectations, boundaries, and the difference between being a good man and a nice guy.
Are men being used, or are they simply failing to establish boundaries? Are women asking for too much, or are men expecting too much in return?
Tap in with Tahoe, Traum, Kelly G, Lama, and the So Shameless crew for another episode where NOTHING is off limits!
Drop your thoughts in the comments: What’s the biggest red flag when it comes to dating and money?
Socials:
Kelly
@TheKellyGshow
Lama
@LamaBean
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12 OCT 2026 · Part Two of this week’s So Shameless gets HEAVY as the crew tackles some uncomfortable conversations about accountability, race, relationships, and the expectations Black men and women have of each other.
We start with the Cornell 7 conversation and debate who was actually culpable. Was the young woman victimized, were there multiple people responsible for what happened, or is there more nuance to the situation than people are willing to acknowledge?
Then a young woman makes the statement that “Black men are hard to love.” What makes someone feel that way, and are Black men being judged fairly when it comes to relationships?
From there, another woman argues that Black women want the “white woman experience” — and that chasing the lifestyle, treatment, and relationship expectations associated with white women can cause some Black women to look down on Black men who can’t or won’t provide it. Is there any truth to that, or is the entire premise rooted in stereotypes?
And finally, Megan Thee Stallion says that her relationship with Klay Thompson and conversations about toning down her public image left her in a constant state of panic. When you’re dating someone with a provocative or highly public persona, is it fair to ask them to change? And where’s the line between compromise and control?
This one gets complicated.
Tap in with the So Shameless crew and tell us where YOU stand.
Socials:
Reg
@LTLEng on Instagram
Tasia
@TasiaJanine on Instagram
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8 OCT 2026 · The So Shameless crew is back, and we’re starting this episode in HOMIE COURT! 😂 Who is Yesssterday mad at this time?! After a few people show up late, we have to figure out why Yesssterday has an attitude — and who deserves the blame.
Then we get into a viral couple who records their arguments and posts them online so the internet can decide who’s wrong. Is bringing social media into your relationship ever a good idea?
That leads us into a HEATED conversation when Reg explains the things he will and won’t accept from his woman, his rules about leadership in a relationship, and why he believes his lady should allow him to lead. Tasia thinks some of it sounds misogynistic and controlling.
Can a man be the leader of a relationship without controlling his woman? And should there even be a hierarchy between men and women in relationships?
Tahoe also tells the crew about an altercation he almost had at a gas station before we get into a wild money dilemma:
If someone you know loses $3,000 and YOU find it, are you entitled to take a finder’s fee before giving their money back? 👀 That question leads Tahoe to tell the story of finding $8,500 during one of the lowest moments of his life.
Plus, why are people building robots that can actually fight?! Are we moving too fast with AI, and at what point should we start worrying about where all of this technology is headed?
Reg also questions why a man would “allow” his woman to take a trip without him — because according to Reg, his lady could NEVER. 😂
And finally, Savannah James says that if she and a friend are traveling together, she isn’t necessarily upgrading her friend to first class just because she can afford to upgrade herself. Her friend says she wouldn’t expect her to — but Tahoe says he would definitely feel a way about it.
Would YOU upgrade your friend, or are they meeting you in baggage claim? 😂
Tap in with the So Shameless crew and tell us who you agree with in the comments.
Socials:
Reg
@LTLEng on Instagram
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2 OCT 2026 · Part Two of So Shameless featuring Kizzle of @expressyourselfblackman and life coach Coach Bellamy (@mrsbellamy.callmecoach) gets personal as we talk about insecurity, fatherhood, relationships, responsibility and some uncomfortable truths about ourselves.
We start with something almost everybody experiences but doesn’t always admit: feelings of inadequacy. What do you do when you don’t feel like you’re enough? And how much of overcoming those feelings comes from changing your circumstances versus changing the way you see yourself?
Then we get into fatherhood and discipline. What happens when Dad constantly feels like the bad guy because he’s the parent enforcing the rules? Are fathers sometimes sacrificing their relationship with their children in order to prepare them for the real world?
From there, Tahoe asks a question that’s guaranteed to start an argument: When your woman is pregnant, should she still have to work — or is it a man’s responsibility to put himself in a position where she doesn’t HAVE to? And does providing that option make it her choice, or should that simply be the expectation?
Then things get even more complicated.
Does being in a relationship mean you belong to your partner in some way? Are you your partner’s “possession,” or does that language cross a line between commitment and control?
We also talk about preparing your children for what happens after you’re gone. Should your kids know what they’re inheriting while you’re still alive, or should they find out when the will is read? And can knowing what’s coming change the way family members behave?
Finally, we ask one of the most uncomfortable relationship questions of the episode:
Can you be partially responsible for your partner cheating on you?
The person who cheats is responsible for the decision they make — but can problems inside a relationship help create the circumstances that lead someone to step outside of it? And is understanding what went wrong the same thing as excusing the betrayal?
Insecurity. Fatherhood. Pregnancy. Providing. Possession. Inheritance. Infidelity.
Yeah…Part Two went there.
Welcome back to So Shameless.
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Mrs Bellamy
@MrsBellamy.CallMeCoach on Instagram
Kizzle
@ExpressYourselfBlackMan on Instagram
Tahoe, Ms. DajahBelle and Dj Trauma talk relationships, friendships, life issues, finance, sex, and everything about men that annoys women.
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