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A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 34 years experience working with those surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner...
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A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 34 years experience working with those surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.
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Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups
Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups
Borderline Groundhog Day Repetition Compulsions Understanding Codependent Fantasy
14 JUL 2024 · Borderline Groundhog Day Repetition & Codependent FantasyÂ
Borderline Groundhog Day repetition compulsions are pretty much every day (untreated) and people with Codependency are still trying to change the Fantasy Bond. People with Codependency end up in the fantasy while (untreated) people with BPD live each day or most days as yet another groundhog day of their own unconscious repetition compulsions. Want or need to understand why your Borderline doesn't see you or hear you, devalues, blames you, feels like a victim and can't learn from the daily repetition compulsions cycles?
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
BPD Relationship or Breakup Are You Codependent or Just Care Too Much?
29 JUN 2024 · BPD Relationship or Breakup - Are you a Codependent or Do You Just Care Too Much?
An inauthentic Youtuber who prior to March 2024 had 63,000 subscribers and now has bought her way up to 150+ subscribers, and counting, did one of her usual fluff so called "deep dive" into this silly title, "Are you a Codependent or Do You Just Care Too Much?"
In my alternative for those who find it and will benefit from much more information and resonate with this podcast (episode) I identity the following about Codependency for so many that are in a relationship, are recycling a BPD Relationship, been ghosted and/or discarded by a partner or now Ex with BPD and who are suffering immeasurably and can't stop ruminating. Still stuck painfully in the cognitive dissonance of what happened. Many remain confused for months to years unable to break the trauma bond that you must break to heal and recover from the BPD Breakup and from Codependency. In this episode I explain the following:
- 4 Codependent Themes
- 15 Core Traits
- 15 Childhood Causes Â
- 7 Benefits of Professional Help in Recovery
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
Am I a Codependent in a Heartbreaking Cycle Of a Bpd Relationship or Breakup?
28 JUN 2024 · Am I a Codependent in a Heartbreaking Cycle Of a Bpd Relationship or Breakup?
Am I a Codependent, are you a Codependent in a heartbreaking cycle of a BPD relationship and Breakup - ghosted, discarded, had to end it yourself?Â
In a BPD Relationship, recycling a BPD Relationship, or have you been ghosted or discarded - are you new to or still suffering from a BPD Breakup? Are you still unsure how to answer the questions, "Am I a Codependent?" Do you want that person with BPD back, are you totally focused on the on/off BPD - the Ex with BPD - still hoping, or did it all end a while ago or years ago but you still continue to hurt, watch videos, and ruminate?
Why realizing what Codependency really means and how it applies to you is the only way to heal (working with an expert in this area, like myself) Â and be able to move on and be truly free from anything to do with that person with BPD and all you have been wounded by.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
BPD Relationship Dynamics - Codependents Not Taking It Fighting Back
24 JUN 2024 · BPD Relationship Dynamics Codependents Staying But Not Taking It and Fighting Back
BPD relationships dynamics with codependents who are staying in the relationship "not taking it" and are fighting back thinking that this isn't codependent and that somehow it means you are not still getting very hurt and negatively impacted by all that people with BPD do that wounds those closest to them. What does fighting back look like and what is the result of it when on is doing that but still staying in a BPD relationship? The betrayal bond dynamics in relationships with a person with BPD and a person with Codependency aren't all just one-sided.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
Empower Someone With BPD To End Unhealthy Life Choices Claims An Inauthentic Youtuber
3 JUN 2024 · Empower Someone With BPD To End Unhealthy Life Choices Claims An Inauthentic Youtuber
I keep it real to help you heal!
An inauthentic subscriber purchasing Youtuber misinforms in the worst way possible by blaming
people with Codependency as if you need to be "perfect" before you try to have all thoseÂ
"conversations" with someone in your life with BPD or else the borderline will just blame you.
People with BPD don't take personal responsibility and it's not your job to be a "role model"
or make sure as this Youtuber claims, "that your side of the fence is cleaned up first" to what,Â
talk to a person with BPD abusing and using you? This Youtuber has bought over 70,000 "fake" subscribers in April and May 2024 (perhaps still on-going?) and allegedly also purchased thousands of views on her video of a similar titlebecause her messages don't make sense and she isn't the "expert" she wants everyone to think she is.
An in authentic Youtuber blaming victims of abusive borderlines and suggesting that you should be ableto "empower them" to stop "unhealthy life choices" that result from BPD. She sounds like a lost puppy,a rampant Codependent but what else is wrong with her that she needs to try to buy her way to "more credibility" while putting out the garbage "information" that she does. You can't empower a person with BPD to end the unhealthy life choices they make. Those choices will continue and continue to hurt you as will any notion or belief on your part that you aren't "perfect" enough for a person with BPD who uses you can can't love you.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
Break The Betrayal Bond BPD or NPD Ex Adult Child & Codependency
25 MAY 2024 · Break The Betrayal Bond BPD or NPD Ex or Adult Child & Codependency
People who have been in a relationship with a person with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and those who may also have a BPD or NPD parent need to recognize their woundedness from childhood to be able to heal Codependency. You cannot break a betrayal or fantasy bond with a BPD Ex, NPD Ex and/or BPD or NPD parent until and unless you work with someone who is, as I am, an expert in this area to help you heal and recover from a Borderline or Narcissist while healing your codependency which is the only way to break that fantasy bond or betrayal bond and know yourself better, and/or reclaim yourself.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessionsÂ
Stop The Cycle of Bpd's Using You As An Atm and a Vending Machine
18 MAY 2024 · Stop The Cycle of Bpd's Using You As An Atm and a Vending Machine In Relationship Recycling
Are you someone still in a relationship or in the on/off BPD Breakup relationship recycling with a person with (especially untreated) BPD? You are likely someone with Codependency. Codependents - BPD Ex's or partners and Ex-on/off partners of Borderlines are BPD ATM & vending machines on empty as each cycle rollercoaster ride takes more and more from you, depleting you as you continue to lose yourself more and more. You can't make the relationships work - fantasy bonded relationship impossibility.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessionsÂ
Losing Yourself Trying To Nurture and Aid a Borderline?
6 MAY 2024 · Losing Yourself Trying to Nurture and Aid a Borderline?
In a response to a Codependent commenter on a video I did about Borderlines Lying andÂ
manipulation whether it is on purpose, calcuulated or not - it is what it is, thisÂ
person who left a semi=hostile but Codependent denying comment thought that it should
be possible for partners, Ex's or friends of someone with BPD to nurture them and aid
them as they stressed this MUST be possible. No, it really isn't.
This person's Codependent denial "take-away" they ascribe to my video is evidence of their own denial and twisting of what I said because they don't want to or aren't ready to realize the
reality that one needs to find outside of a tantasy bond with a Borderline, You need to
take care of yourself, not continue to think or believe or fantasize about nurturing and
aiding - rescuing, changing, or fixing a person with BPD while you are being traumatized
and keep losing more and more of yourself and getting more confused about why "love"Â
hurts so much.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
BPD Quiet Discouraged Subtype Specific Traits and Shocking Discards
21 MAR 2024 · BPD Quiet Discouraged Subtype Specific Traits and Shocking Discards
The quiet Borderline subtype known and described as the Discouraged Borderline. A look at this presentation and manifestation of Borderline Personality Disorder.
The specific Quiet BPD subtype traits are discussed as well as the reasons why a Discouraged Borderline's shocking discard is one of the most painful relationship endings. Cold discards by the Quiet Borderline that are not your fault.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions
Salacious BPD Women Are Not Dreams They are Relationship Nightmares
19 MAR 2024 · Salacious BPD Women Are Not Dreams But Relationship Nightmares
Every person with Borderline Personality, their lives matter and are worth living. But in response to an objectified erroneous and pathological veneration of Borderline Women that goes way too far via his perspective as a malignant narcissist. Some of his video "Borderline's Life is Worth Living Technicolor Adventure" is in some aspects very dark and not only misses the mark in places but objectives the "Borderline Woman" as he seems to covet the emotionality of people with BPD but misrepresents it for his own duper's delight and Narcissistic supply. I want to present an alternative voice and remind you that if you are not, like said Youtuber is, a malignant narcissist or a Narcissist, as a Codependent, believing his wayward message will be very harmful, dark and dangerous for you. Salacious Borderline Women are not "dreams" they are unfortunately relationship nightmares. You need to get off the BPD rollercoaster trauma bond that you are losing or have lost yourself on.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessionsÂ
A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 34 years experience working with those surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner...
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A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 34 years experience working with those surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.
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