Welcome to "How To Be...", guiding you through life's tricky topics and skills by reading through the best books out there. Desire is instinctual. It lives deep in our animal selves. Desire wants what it wants, without rationale, often without full awareness. Most of us wrestle throughout our lives with the desires we’ve denied ourselves in order to fit into the “good” box and to be accepted in our family and community. So how do we stop fearing desire and pursue what we want? Hence, I spoke to What We Want author Charlotte Fox Weber on how we embrace desire, as well as other experts' books to see if their advice can help all of us. Please hit subscribe to hear the whole series on life skills and social change! It should be short and sweet. I look forward to journeying with you through this maze of hacks.