We can get easily confused between the feeling of neediness or desire, and a sense of Purpose.

Consider this:

Do you really want a hot, cool, funny girlfriend with whom you will fall in love? I’m going to argue right now that you don’t actually want that.

What I mean by that is neediness has no place in actually getting what you want. It doesn't really push itself. It doesn't really have goals in mind—and we think it does.

What it really has in mind is just a need to fill a hole. That's really all it does. So when we get confused and we tend to think that neediness is our wanting, is our excitement, is our attraction—it's actually not. All desire is, is the need to fill a void that we have.