Beginning – 15:26

Introductions. We talk about her book turned podcast, Inviting Shift.We all pretty well know what we’re supposed to be doing but it comes to us in stages.

1. S: Stuck / Something isn’t great
2. H: Honing in / Honoring
3. I: “I got it!”
4. F: Fear / Fortitude / Other “F” words (you know)
5. T: Transformation

Humaning is hard. There’s always another level of growth. Implementation is the hard part.

Procrastination and perfectionism are best friends. Any time things get uncomfortable we tend to shut down. Confidence is a skill we have to practice. We grow in our discomfort.Find baby steps you can implement to get you to where you want to be. Only as adults to we catch “Impostor syndrome” holding onto that childlike wonder as beginners and learners can help. We have to be okay being bad at something before we can learn to be good at it.

Just keep showing up. You’re going to mess up sometimes and that’s okay. You just need to instill that sense of integrity that you are the one who keeps showing up and trying. You can’t please everyone. One person will find a certain statement you make lifechanging and someone else will find that same statement foolish. It’s the balance.

15:26 – 25:40

The intentional and aligned method. Looking at what you want and why you want it which always comes down to feelings. We don’t want the materials we think we do. We want the feelings we think those material things are going to bring us.Happiness isn’t a destination. It’s a series of small in the moment choices that align with our intentions and desires.

Old beliefs that hold us back from being happy right now. Our culture and society has taught us that things work one way when they can actually work anyway we want them to. Is that going to come with some consequences? Probably, there’s always ways to figure things out and work around what you need in order to get there.

25:40 – 30:22

It’s okay to want what you want even if it looks different than what everyone else wants or says you should want.Being able to step away from consumerism and spend time in nature is a bit of a luxury these days.Learning how to navigate and manage your emotions. Understanding what each emotion is trying to tell you. Figure out what emotions you’re desiring / craving and figure out ways to bring them into being right now.

30:22 – 41:46

Building confidence by managing disappointment within ourselves. Is it unsafe or just uncomfortable?

Discussing shame and the story telling brain.

Book Emotional Agility Get Unstuck Embrace Change and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan David (af)

Getting into the body and out of the head to calm the monkey mind.Toxic positivity and toxic gratitude. Coping mechanisms, working through emotions and talking it out.

41:46 – End

Sensitivity is a superpower. Especially when trying to figure out your own body and what works best for it. Acknowledging the emotions you’re feeling and creating space for it.

Anger management. We are our own biggest critic.
Meet Our Guest
Christina Smith is a life coach specializing in confidence and self-love in midlife so that women can finally truly like themselves and how they show up for themselves and their relationships. She’s helped people move through tough transitions in coaching and with her book, Inviting Shift. Her focus is on helping women to empower themselves so they can make their second half the best half by dropping the people-pleasing and perfection and stepping into desire, authenticity and joy.

Christina is also the host of The Inviting Shift Podcast – a place for midlife women to embrace their uniqueness and truth with confidence. The mission is to help women reinvent midlife so we can revolutionize how we see aging and ourselves as we age. She encourages people to be more gentle with their humanness so they can truly shine the way they choose to without gratitude lists or toxic positivity.

• Website: https://christina-smith.com/
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