Research shows that being self compassionate makes you more successful, happier and decreases anxiety, depression and neurotic perfectionism. It also increased your personal initiative so you get things done.

More than self confidence, self compassion is a far better tool to get ahead and be happier.

Being self confident means you feel good at trying things, and people around you believe you can achieve the targets so are more likely to give you a chance. You also will earn more on average.

However self confidence has major downsides as it can lead to you ignoring feedback, not being clear on where you failed and where you need to put extra work in plus you can be self delusional. Plus if/when you fail, your self esteem gets battered as it does not compute. Not taking guidance and thus not correcting is a real fail for those of us who are self-confident.

If you are lacking in self confidence you are more aware of where you are failing, you can see where the problems are but you will be less likely to believe you have the ability to correct the issues and thus you will not try. People also will not trust you to do things so you will not be given as many chances.

Self compassion is a technique that ensures that you get the best of both. You forgive yourself and can see where you need to put the work in.

How do you become more self compassionate?
-Talk to yourself in a gentle loving voice (think like a kind elderly supportive relative!)
- Forgive yourself
- Don’t be critical when you fail and tell yourself off
- Accept you are human and thus fallible
- Recognise your failures and frustrations without seeing them as the end of the world or a reason to give up
-Do something about your failures and frustrations

Meditation, chanting and mindfulness also help.
I also do the ‘think three things I am grateful for each morning before I get out of bed’, different ones every day. This is an exercise proven to life spirits, by increasing your gratitude for the life you have now, you will be less likely to get depressed.

Aims of this podcast - Love Your Creativity & Make Money
I sometimes only seem to create when I have to create, under pressure or deadlines and then I moan about the rush. Ridiculous when I think about the fact I have chosen this creative life, or it has chosen me and I must follow my muse – often grumpily it seems! Or I do nothing and then feel guilty as I watch friends get with their own projects. Hence this podcast is about what techniques we can all use to get the work done and out there, no matter where you work full time as an actor, a choreographer or have a yearning to paint more over the weekends.

About me, Marysia Trembecka

I am at heart a storyteller and this has translated from the initial creation of work to being a performer, including film and theatre acting, writing and performing international touring comedy shows to MCing.
Highlights include sell-out Adelaide and Edinburgh Fringe shows, singing at the Royal Festival Hall in 23 different languages, as well as doing TEDx talks and corporate gigs, such as the Brit Awards Afterparty at the 02 as my ‘The Singing Psychic’ bio queen character.

My ‘THE SINGING PSYCHIC’ who ‘reads the songs in your heart’ also has a GAME SHOW version, and was a finalist in Best Show, Funny Women in 2016, and I have toured internationally since then.
I have also produced five webseries as the character including my 23 episode SONGS OF BREXIT webseries I made for the June 2016 EU Referendum, on the pros and cons of the EU, I started the web series singing The Clash’s ‘Should I Stay Or Should I Go Now’. It was very well received due to the blend of education and entertainment, and I ended up on London Live and even a BBC2 Live Debate on the National Living Wage amongst other press of the back of that.


I also was awarded Arts Council funding for research on a solo show on how we are all judged by our sexuality, so as part of that, I interviewed people on the cutting edge of sexual politics. From this I then created another character ‘Queen Of The F*cking World’ which has also toured internationally from Glasgow WOFF film festival in the female perspective strand to sell-out London, Edinburgh and Adelaide runs. I sing well and play the bass guitar and guitar in this show.

My film acting credits can be found on IMDB and indeed my projects are on my media gallery http://marysiatrembecka.com/media-gallery/
Marysia Trembecka
www.loveyourcreativity.com